Waiting for perfection / perfect conditions
Procrastination is the result of waiting for perfection or perfect conditions.
The world is a big place. There will always be more ideas, new products, new books, additional information, enhanced services and so on. It is easy to think, "I'll just do one more piece of research, read one more book on the subject, or do one more degree" and put off until tomorrow what you would ideally like to do today. The truth is the more you know, the more there is to know.
Perfect conditions exist in your world NOW, but it is up to you to feel that you are good enough now to move forward with what you want. Only you can make that happen.
Often it takes courage to simply say, "What I have right now is good enough. There will always be room for improvement. My product / service will evolve. For now, what I have is great and I will go ahead with it right now."
If you were to wait for perfect conditions, what would those be? There is always something that we can pick out as not yet being perfect. The thing to know is that our level of belief is often just one step behind our desire. In other words, it will always feel a little bit scary when we want and go to do something new. Your perfect conditions exist now.
Take courage and just go for what you want.
What one step can you take today to make progress towards what you want?
Quote:
"Do what you can, with what you have, where you are." - Theodore Roosevelt
"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on." - Robert Frost
Avoiding disappointment
Most of us don't like the feeling of disappointment because, let's admit it, it doesn't feel very good at all!
However, many people do not understand what the less-than-good feeling really means. Our feelings are actually an incredible internal guidance system.
When we feel lousy, as in the case of disappointment, what we are doing in that moment is focusing on the lack of something. We wanted something, and now we haven't got it. The continued focus on the "I haven't got it" perpetuates that less-than-good feeling.
The feeling of disappointment or any other less-than-good feeling is saying, "Hey! You've just focused on your not having something that you want. Now, change your focus and think about what you want. Perhaps you might even choose to look for some other ways in which you could achieve what you want. Then take action towards that and trust. As soon as you do that, this less-than-good feeling will disappear and you will feel good again, just knowing that you are continuing to make progress and anticipating the arrival of whatever it is that you want."
What one step can you take today to make progress towards what you want?
Quote:
"When we think positively, we risk disappointment. When we don't, we ensure it." - Lana Limpert
Not creating a deliberate and inspiring vision
Everyone has some kind of vision for themselves. We create mini-visions all the time. Every time we get an idea, we create a mini-vision. When we think about what to wear, we create a mini-vision. That is how our minds work.
The question therefore is whether or not you have consciously and deliberately created a vision for what you want and one that inspires you.
Our minds are amazingly powerful. When we have a clear vision which inspires and generates strong positive emotion, our minds go to work. In the background, it thinks up ideas and conspires to bring our vision into reality. Remember when you had a brilliant idea just "out of the blue"?
The more detail and clarity we can give our minds, the better our chances of getting what we want. If we don't create a clear and inspiring vision we'll have to settle for what turns up!
Often, the challenge of money gets in the way. Perhaps you cannot see how you can achieve your vision because you feel that you do not have the money to support you in doing that. It is a case of balancing the two; the aspect of earning enough to keep you comfortable, and the aspect of keeping your focus on your vision. However, you balance it out, don't give up on the vision of the dream! When we think we can't achieve something, we don't.
What if you keep your dream alive and thriving and somehow it came true? Give it a chance.
What one step can you take today to make progress towards what you want?
Quote:
"Whether you think you can or you can't, you're right". - Henry Ford
"The mind is the limit. As long as the mind can envision the fact that you can do something, you can do it - as long as you really believe 100 per cent". - Arnold Schwarzenegger
Trying to do it all by yourself
Somehow, at some stage in our growing up, we have been taught that we must do things all by ourselves. Perhaps it came from school, when getting help from a friend was seen as cheating, or we were told off for asking a question of the person sitting next to us in class. Wherever it came from, many people think that to ask for help is a sign of weakness. Sometimes being offered help feels just as awkward.
No man is an island. We cannot be truly successful without other people. Whilst the term "self-made millionaire" is a useful term, it is in actual fact a misnomer. We all need other people to buy our product or service, or to tell others about it, or to help us get it to market - whether they are a supplier, member of staff, or customer. We cannot do it completely all by ourselves.
Further, by helping other people, we help ourselves. When we add value for the other person, we add value for ourselves. We therefore want to approach asking someone for help by first understanding what is in it for them. As Stephen Covey wrote in the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, "Seek first to understand and then be understood".
What goes around comes around. What we put out we get back. And when we get it back, things can show up in the least expected of ways. Be open to receiving it graciously.
What stops you from asking for help and giving the other person the pleasure of helping? We often recognise the joy of giving. Remember also to take joy from allowing the other person the pleasure of giving to you.
What one step can you take today to make progress towards what you want?
Quote:
"It is one of the most beautiful compensations of life, that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself" - Ralph Waldo Emerson
"All of us, at certain moments of our lives, need to take advice and to receive help from other people" - Alexis Carrel, Reflections on Life
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